When a woman faces erectile dysfunction in her partner, her number one fear is usually "he's just not that into me. It's time to stop taking it personally.
Erectile dysfunction or an inability to maintain an erection can be quite an obstacle in the bedroom. Men as young as 30, in peak physical condition, are telling me how they've become dependent on a Viagra regimen in order to keep it up. As I work with these cases of mind vs.
The number one assumption among these women seems to be: He must not be attracted to me. Does this resonate with you? Have you found yourself ready for action, only to find that he's lost his enthusiasm?
Chances are it has happened to you, or your best friend or your friend's friend. So what do you attribute it to? If you are like most people, the message you internalize is: We all have self doubt, and when we encounter an experience that could potentially give credence to our negative self talk, it's tempting to grab hold of the evidence and run with it.
But I beg of you, for the sake of your self esteem and your relationship, don't go there. The second agreement states, "Don't take anything personally. There are many reasons he might lose his erection including stress, diet, exercise, sleep, alcohol consumption and smokingjust to name a few.
But if he's lost it once, the fear then becomes what if this happens every time? What if I can never again get it up or keep it up?