How do i tell my wife i am gay

Please don't make the mistake of saying it breaks your heart at this time as the energy will be turned away from her. I truly hope everything goes well for you, and hope you keep posting as I will be reading with a great deal of interest. How do we tell everyone we know? Your relationship has changed. The Transdisciplinary Journal of Christian Psychology. Leave that until she's ready to hear it.

However, you DID have a choice in this matter and you chose to ignore your true nature and marry against your better judgment. The gay spouse becomes angry because they feel pressured to do something they know they can no longer do. Hi so over the past couple of years I have really had a curiosity of m2m contact. When a gay person comes out to his or her straight spouse, the couple is likely to embark on a roller-coaster ride of emotional stages that often encompasses humiliation, revenge, renewed hope, rage, and finally, resolution. It is going to be really hard, but it will be harder 8 years down the road with kids involved.

This is highly unlikely. It's often no accident that they married a spouse who couldn't commit completely or be intimate and available, the way a straight spouse could. Regrettably, she became part of my mask. From the sound of it Joel, you have some pretty strong needs and desires. Avoid public places like bars or restaurants.

You may need professional guidance to deal with this. Your excitement is good to read of too. It's great to see you're over the first obstacle even though it was distressing for both of you. I think I made some excuse about not being able to afford a bigger house, and someone sleeping on the sofa, fooling no one. We had a baby, but things soon turned volatile. If you disclose, you will have to be prepared for this.